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Co-Dependence & Addiction

 

Signs you may be co-dependent / living with an unaddressed addiction:

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• Compulsion to seek approval and acceptance from others

• Controlling and manipulating situations to get or avoid certain results

• Trying to control people's perception of you

• Neglecting self-care in order to get more done

• Knowing what is best for everyone else in your life and getting resentful and frustrated when they can't see it

• Putting people on pedestals

• Putting yourself on a pedestal

• Obsessing over being on time

• Regularly using substances like food, alcohol or screens to "take the edge" off your nervous system

• Using shame and judgment on yourself to get yourself to be better

• Obsessing over delivering a perfect product / service to your customers or audience

• Saying yes when you mean no

• Saying yes and then holding resentments as a way of maintaining power in a relationship

• Wearing your reliability and loyalty as a badge of honor and going great lengths to avoid that reputation being tarnished

• Lying by omission to look good or avoid looking bad

• Controlling your kids so you don't look bad

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